tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-421402487626324535.post3425310518822496921..comments2024-02-02T12:05:54.302-06:00Comments on The Unreal Life: What You DeserveAutumn @ The Unreal Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10620178433601921586noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-421402487626324535.post-61082563298373405552014-01-27T16:48:15.874-06:002014-01-27T16:48:15.874-06:00THANK YOU for the "you accept the love you th...THANK YOU for the "you accept the love you think you deserve" comment because I have always thought that phrase is complete crap. That phrase is so self serving and plays so well in to the "woe is me" attitude, it drives me insane. You accept the love you choose to accept, whether you deserve it or not. UGH. You get me, love.Ellen Schaffranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05722611561656728632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-421402487626324535.post-33201479131853122592014-01-26T09:21:07.461-06:002014-01-26T09:21:07.461-06:00This is deep... and food for thought.
What I want ...This is deep... and food for thought.<br />What I want and what I deserve in life are two different things, and sometimes I feel like I deserve what I want. But only because I worked my all to get to it.<br />It's complicated...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-421402487626324535.post-89875942798224335222014-01-26T05:55:29.574-06:002014-01-26T05:55:29.574-06:00This was a great post! You are really thoughtful a...This was a great post! You are really thoughtful and intelligent, and I really enjoyed having something deep to mull over. I like how you say that saying what you want is at least acknowledging the selfish element, instead of hiding behind it. That's so true! Also, I think we sometimes talk and think too much about what we think we 'deserve' and forget that we actually have an element of autonomy and make decisions in our own lives. <br /><br />I just stumbled on your blog today and I'm so glad I did! I loved this post, keep it up :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-421402487626324535.post-9678600811887880672014-01-24T15:15:09.098-06:002014-01-24T15:15:09.098-06:00this is too deep for me.
i stopped reading.
love ...this is too deep for me.<br />i stopped reading.<br /><br />love you. bye.shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03269175769553646142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-421402487626324535.post-58532765666251270162014-01-23T19:45:37.460-06:002014-01-23T19:45:37.460-06:00So, this is really interesting 'food for thoug...So, this is really interesting 'food for thought' & I seriously enjoyed reading your perspective/what you have to say. I don't have any major insight or even opinions on this yet BUT you've really got me thinking! Thanks for sharing this!Jenn @ Party of Onehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17835756412823316453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-421402487626324535.post-38263010628712447972014-01-23T12:55:32.804-06:002014-01-23T12:55:32.804-06:00This is an interesting thing to think about. I kno...This is an interesting thing to think about. I know I didn't deserve what I got in my last relationship and that I want something different. But 'deserve' becomes subjective. Other people think we deserve less, or more...I think it comes down to what we want and what we're willing to do to get it.Whitney Alison https://www.blogger.com/profile/02153898249785757592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-421402487626324535.post-5855630724457015882014-01-22T18:40:15.701-06:002014-01-22T18:40:15.701-06:00Why can't they be the same thing? Why do I ha...Why can't they be the same thing? Why do I have to deserve one thing & want another? I suppose if I had to pick between the 2 I'd pick want because in the end Id think I'd be happier getting what I want than what I deserve.Briannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15343989978472064388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-421402487626324535.post-39164693503322413432014-01-22T12:37:45.211-06:002014-01-22T12:37:45.211-06:00after my bullshit relationship with my ex, i defin...after my bullshit relationship with my ex, i definitely know what i DON'T want and what i DON'T deserve. <br /><br />i'm one who believes that what you want is what you deserve. people will treat you the way you let them; if you refuse to let someone walk all over you, you will stop that shit as soon as they try. <br /><br />everyone deserves to be loved the way they want. <br /><br />kathy<br /><a href="http://www.lifeinprogress.ca" rel="nofollow">Vodka and Soda</a> Kathy@MoreCoffeeLessTalkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044005966979731361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-421402487626324535.post-81415810508246609572014-01-22T11:58:13.154-06:002014-01-22T11:58:13.154-06:00Being selfish, I would want something I want over ...Being selfish, I would want something I want over what I deserved. Although, that's a tough call. My brain always feels challenged after reading this series. Girl Brookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02286790948649231863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-421402487626324535.post-78898916327341180152014-01-22T07:10:04.797-06:002014-01-22T07:10:04.797-06:00Having been one of those girls with cripplingly lo...Having been one of those girls with cripplingly low self esteem back in the day, I have to agree with the phrase "you date who you think you deserve." That's a far cry from saying that it's your fault when bad things happen in those relationships. It's a matter of viewing the world. Like, when someone kills themselves, we don't talk about how it was their fault. It wasn't their fault, it was their perception of reality that distorted the truth and caused them to take unfortunate actions. If you think you are a horrible, ugly person, you're not going to try and date someone who is good to you. It wouldn't even cross your mind because you've already crossed them out thinking they could never like someone as horrid as you. Instead, you seek out the guy who will reinforce the opinions you have of yourself. It's like watching Fox News. A specific type of person watches that channel, which, arguable, offers a distorted view of relatively. But it is the same distortion their viewers already hold. Those viewers are not looking for the truth of the world. They are looking for the truth as they already see to be enforced.<br /><br />Sorry, that was kind of ranty. On a different note, no one deserves love. Let's be honest, we all have our faults. We have to have the confidence to say "even though I'm not perfect, I deserve someone who will love and respect me," I think we get what we want when we broaden our desires. For example, it's much easier to find a guy who shares a few interests with you than it is to find a guy who shares a specific interest. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com